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Not lucky with friends

Growing up I had the love, affection, attention and respect from my parents..i understood what it meant to be loved, valued and respected by someone..I was more like a tomboy..lol but I was girl smart..I new how to choose my friends and sometimes I let them pick me..I could go extra mile for anyone I truly loved..someone once told me that I give people chances even when i know they aren’t acting right..my secondary school was the second best in my state back then..i wasn’t the brightest child but it was a privilege attending that school..oh yes, I’m a no nonsense person (not rude)and I’m outspoken..i would not let you cheat me or cheat anyone close to me..fast forward to university, that’s another stage of life..I meet different category of people..but thank God for up bringing and contentment..a lot of girls got pregnant and people back home didn’t know about it..I still keep in touch with some of my friends from uni..fast forward to after school I meet a couple of people who I considered as friends but they were just around because of the benefits they got from me..I new at some point that they wouldn’t go all out for me but I wasn’t bothered..until I posted a picture of me getting married..that was when the camels back broke.. No congratulations, they didn’t attend my wedding, and when we finally had a conversation months later, they said I was always acting single that was why they were angry when I posted my engagement and wedding..isn’t that funny? These were people I considered as my very good friends and my family new about them..after that incident, I gave up on friendships, I wasn’t going to check up on you first, no calls, text or visits..I gave back the same energy and I lost everyone of them..

Posted 29 March

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I would say you didn’t lose friends, you only outgrew users. Loyalty without boundaries attracts takers. Don’t shut your heart, just refine it. Choose fewer people, and test consistency, not words. Real friendship shows in your wins also. So I'd say you should keep your standards, just add discernment to it.

29 March

Community Responses (1)

Nawa oo, this one pain differently. People who ate with you, laughed with you, knew your family... and they couldn't even type "congratulations" on one of the biggest days of your life? That's not a small thing. And that excuse they gave? "You were acting single" 😂 like what does that even mean?!

29 March

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