The special child

Growing up as a first child in an African home, I was expected to make sacrifices I didn’t plan for.. I was suppose to take everything my baby sister did because I was older..it was very obvious she was my parent favorite child..but who was I to complain..we attended same primary and secondary but I felt like an adopted child when i started understanding somethings..she had everything she needed in school but yet again I was made manage..she got gift, new clothes, shoes, toys and even bags, be it Christmas or her birthday but I didn’t have that privilege..It was time to go to the university and i couldn’t wait to leave home..I told my parent i wanted to stay off campus because it was closer to my faculty, but they refused saying they didn’t have money for that so I got into the school hostel..the stress was unbearable but I had to adjust..few years later my sister also got into the same university and guess what guys, my parent paid for a nice spacious self con off campus because she said she didn’t want to share her space with anyone..I wasn’t upset because I was already used to them pleasing her..I never dated anyone because my mother promised me not to..thou I had friends I’m close with but nothing serious..I tried visiting my sister a couple of times but she always came up with an excuse so I stopped trying..she never visited me too..only few people new we were related because we lived two different life..she hasn’t visited home in two years..I’m graduating soon and I got to discover that my sister has been living with her boyfriend ( baby daddy) yes baby daddy because she now has a child..she was pregnant all along that was why she kept refusing me to come over..it is not in my place to announce to my parent that their special baby is now a mother and has dropped out of school..I’m not going to blame them but I want to put it out there that parent should try as much as possible not to prefer or love one child more than the other because it could cause a lot of damage to the child being treated badly..I suffered from low self esteem for years and i always thought I wasn’t enough..i always allow people cheat me because my parents showed that part right from childhood so i thought it was normal..I’m better now and I’m happy for my growth..

Posted 31 March